EQ is more important in life than IQ

My friend once sent me an e-book called 
"The EQ Edge" written by Steven J. Stein, Ph.D., and Howard E. Book. After reading it, I changed my attitude to IQ and EQ.

  First of all, do you know what IQ is? Intellectual quotient is called IQ for short, which is a measurement of people’s ability to solve practical problems. It includes many aspects and indicates people’s levels of intelligence. Most people pay much attention to IQ, thinking that high IQ is the most important thing when we solve problems. There is no doubt that IQ affects our life directly. Everyone wants to be the smart one. But does it play the most important role in every situation in our life? IQ may help us get a high score and good results in academic research, but everyone has to face the world and we need more than high scores in school.

When we grow up, we will be affected by all the things we meet and build our own Emotional quotient. In our daily life, our EQ will help us to achieve a better life and we can also improve it when dealing with different problems. Someone with high EQ has more social responsibility and morality. “Anyone can have a high IQ; it is a matter of luck.” But not everyone can have a high EQ(Steven and Howard 141). People with high EQ will be helpful and loving. They know how to be a good person and try their best to help others responsibly. As a result, high EQ will help to form a sound personality.

In our daily life, we will meet different people and make friends with them. When we make relationships with others, we only do that to someone we like. Someone we ‘like’ is different because he or she is chosen to be a friend due to the effect of EQ. People will not build relationships with someone with low EQ. All of us like to be with helpful and kind ones, avoiding those annoying people. So if you have a low EQ, you may not be welcome by your classmates or colleagues. What’s more, someone with low EQ will be faced with a lot of problems at work. Most jobs require the ability of communication with others. So when we communicate with different people, the flexibility of exchanging situations and conditions is required. We need to adjust the emotions and behaviors when facing different cases.

So after this book, I realized that EQ is so important in our daily life. Most of the times, it matters more than IQ.

Life with the technology, or not？

With the development of science and technology, we are getting more and more dependent on those electric equipment. What we have to admit is that, we do appreciate technology because of the convenience it brings to us. We have cellphones, so we can contact each other immediately. We have internet, so we can get more information quicker. We have all of the home electric equipment that we don’t need to waste a lot of time to do a lot of things. As a result, we’ve got more time theoretically.

But, do you really think we have more time than before? The answer is, obviously, no. Because we just have our own lifetime. So the length of your time depends on your living time. You can not change it by not doing things. So, here is the problem. Where is the time you saved?

For the society, most people do devote the time to working, which embraces the rapid development of economy or science. But, not everybody works that hard. We have so much high-tech equipment that we can have fun. You can hardly find a guy who doesn’t know what computer game is now. Most of us play mobile games, which is easier to get. At the beginning, we play the games for fun or spending the boring time. But nowadays, I think a few of them play the games as if they are addicted to them. This case is just the simplest thing how technology affect us badly. There is no doubt that we rely on these things more than we imagine.

In the past, people did not have these things. But they still had a happy life. Now, we devote most of our time to technical things. Sometimes doing something without technology would be a big relief. Someone once asked, can you find me if I don’t use my phone and Internet? Actually, I don’t know the answer and I don’t know if anyone would do such a test. But it does alarms us that we contact less between each other. It seems that we have more ways to contact, but we don’t. Sometimes I would think it is because we depend on these equipment that we don’t care people when we don’t need them.

From my point of view, technology does help us a lot. There is no doubt that we need them. But , just don’t forget to live a real life. And the world needs to be consist of real living things.

Is it really good to use Facebook?

After reading this article,
http://www.theguardian.com/technology/2015/aug/28/from-relationships-to-revolutions-seven-ways-facebook-has-changed-the-world
I just have some similar thoughts about it, which is more linked to my real life.

Actually, Facebook is not the only app that we would use to share our life and talk to our friends. But the truth is we use it more because the majority of people in the world use it. If we want to make friends with people all over the world, we wuld prefer it. Friends around me would like to use a software that most of the friends would use, where they can share their life to them. So sometimes I think that people may not really like it, but have to choose it because their friends are using it. And they don't want to feel lonely or lose contact with friends.

There is a word called 'Big data' nowadays, which is absolutely ceated by the new ways of media. Many companies or phychologists use that to find something about public thinking. Then they can produce someting catering to public taste, Which, actually, is good for the development of economy to some extent. But the problem is: do we really want it, people nowadays pay more attention to their privacy because it is so easy to leak information of yourself.

Besides, Jessica Elgot pointed out people may not learn how to get along. I have a similar experience. Some of my friends, who is shy or quiet, they don't talk a lot in the daily life. But they are actualy active online. They talk a lot and are really humorous sometimes. But when I talk to them face to face, they tend to escape from the conversation. They don't like the real talk, which we actually need to do it more. So, I am corious if they would be so talkative without this kind of media. So I think even though it is popular and fashionable, we can not lose the ability to talk in real life.